To understand someone

To understand someone

“In order to understand any man, one must be deliberate and careful to avoid forming prejudices and mistaken ideas, which are very difficult to correct and get over afterwards”. These wise words from the protagonist’s mother, Pulcheria Raskolnikov, in...
Double binds everywhere

Double binds everywhere

Double binds can arise in the most unexpected places. What’s more, they often operate without us being consciously aware that we are caught in them. The term, double bind, was coined in the 1950s by the pioneering scientist and thinker, Gregory Bateson. His idea...
Hidden self-image

Hidden self-image

“It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends on his not understanding it.” These simple yet profound words by the American writer and thinker, Upton Sinclair, can explain so much in the world. And, these words lend themselves to all...
Blinded by narratives

Blinded by narratives

(Extract from Machine Ego) Human beings seem to have an evolved predisposition to create narratives. And, creating narratives relies on establishing causal links between events, things, concepts, people, and places — making mental connections along the lines of “this...
Don’t ignore your hang-ups

Don’t ignore your hang-ups

We’ve all got hang-ups. Certain topics or situations that are triggering. Often, the temptation is to ignore these, to sweep them under the carpet. The reality is that this is a very fertile area for growth and self-understanding. Don’t ignore your hang-ups....