Does life coaching work?
Asking ‘does life coaching work’ is a bit like asking for proof of there being a God (or no God)? Or, if the Universe will end? Or, if you will be happy 10 years from now? The answer to the question of does life coaching work very much has to do with how you define ‘work’?
Not like going to the dentist
Life coaching is not like getting your teeth cleaned at the dentist. It is not something done to you that you passively receive. It is not a ‘cleaning’ that happens with your eyes closed. You have to very deliberately and wholeheartedly engage in it.
There is also no definitive benchmark for what “good” looks likes. If life coaching ‘works’ depends on what you are looking for and what you bring? So, a better question to ask might be: “Can life coaching be useful to me, in what I am facing in my life today?”
The question of does life coaching work also cannot be separated from the question of what is life coaching? If you seek to uncover insights about yourself and your world, then certainly life coaching can help. In the way that a good book, learning martial arts, a talk with a wise friend or a walk in the woods may. Many roads lead to Rome. Working with a life coach is one such road that may be useful.
No magic pill
The extent to which life coaching works depends on your willingness to really engage in a process of self-discovery. Remember that it is not a magic pill. While it may be life changing for some, this is unknowable in advance and highly dependent on unique circumstances. In any case, to seek a magic pill is not a good strategy. To expect too much from any one thing is dangerous. And anyone who offers too much is also dangerous.
Okay, but does life coaching work?
If you embrace life coaching as one tool on your path of self-understanding, it certainly can be very useful. But, only if you dare to ask of yourself the tough questions. Tough questions that you explore not only during sessions but that you take away with you. So, it is all about self-work. The coach can enable insights, but a lot is down to you!
Ultimately, how much life coaching works depends on how much you put into it. The two are inseparable.
Harsha is a 1:1 life coach and independent thinker based in London. He empowers people to find more clarity, confidence and focus in their lives — to cut through the noise, in a world so full of it. Harsha’s new book, Machine Ego: Tragedy of the Modern Mind, is now available in paperback and Kindle through Amazon.