Coaching: The Anna Karenina principle

Coaching: The Anna Karenina principle

How does coaching work? What is the underlying premise at play? Coaching, like many things in life, follows the Anna Karenina principle — that all happy families are alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. At least, that is what I have observed in...
Lost for words

Lost for words

Just because you cannot articulate something, it does not automatically mean that you don’t know what it is. Given how much we rely on language-based reasoning in modernity, you can forgive someone for falling into this trap. For not realising the limitations of...
Distraction of achievement

Distraction of achievement

Focusing on “achievement” is a distraction. It pulls your mind away from attending to the thing, whatever that may be. So, rather than being fully immersed in it, you give-in to the distraction of achievement. Distraction that generates anxiety and inner tension....
Neomania is so 2019

Neomania is so 2019

One of the biggest challenges of modernity is making sure that technology serves you, and not the other way around. Whether it is as subtle as keeping the apps on your phone to an essential minimum or sticking to a simple moka pot rather than a fancy new coffee gizmo,...
False dichotomy: Your Career

False dichotomy: Your Career

The problem of identifying too much with your career is a problem incorrectly framed. Where a dichotomy is created between you as a person, and your career as a quite separate thing.  Identifying too much with your career  The question of over-identification arises...