It’s not personal

It’s not personal

Have you had a recent encounter with someone that has been “difficult”? That made you think, what is going on here? Is it me? What am I doing wrong? Whilst there may certainly be a problem specific to your interaction or relationship. It is also entirely possible that...
Remembering to remember

Remembering to remember

There often exists a gap between insight and action. Seeing the remedy does not automatically translate into implementing it. Particularly, in the realm of personal change. Sometimes, that’s because the status quo is comfortable, a place of habit. Sometimes though, it...
What does it take to be a coach?

What does it take to be a coach?

I was recently asked to say something on the matter of setting-up oneself as a coach and it really got me thinking: What does it take to be a coach? As coaches, we are immersed in the vast world of human dynamics. Where every day is an encounter with professional and...
On the origin of feedback

On the origin of feedback

I learnt last night that when Darwin’s On the Origin of Species was first published in 1859, one of the first persons the book was sent to for review was the Bishop of Oxford, Samuel Wilberforce. Unsurprisingly, it received truly scathing feedback. And, much of...
Adding value, or stroking your ego?

Adding value, or stroking your ego?

Every one of us wants to feel like we are adding value, both in the workplace and beyond. When we make comments, suggestions and criticisms. But, what if sometimes you are not adding value at all, but rather doing the opposite? Feeling appreciated I am sure that many...