False dichotomy: Your Career

False dichotomy: Your Career

The problem of identifying too much with your career is a problem incorrectly framed. Where a dichotomy is created between you as a person, and your career as a quite separate thing.  Identifying too much with your career  The question of over-identification arises...
The waiting game

The waiting game

Waiting for people (your boss, your friends, whomever) to change so that you can feel happy, is like waiting to win the lottery. It may happen, but chances are that this is quite unlikely. This waiting game is very likely a fool’s errand. Your agency Waiting is really...
That free lunch

That free lunch

There’s no free lunch in life. However, what we can do is to consciously decide what we pay for and to fully enjoy it. In this way, the apparent cost really becomes no cost at all! There’s no free lunch The phrase there’s no free lunch suggests that every...
Legend or lackey?

Legend or lackey?

Where do you stand in your job? Are you killin’ it or are things looking precarious? There are many factors to consider of course. And, two that are absolutely fundamental to the quality of your overall employment experience are: (i) Skill and (ii) the relationship...
Playing the fool or being the fool?

Playing the fool or being the fool?

It is one thing to get a qualification or a diploma because it grants you entry through some gate — perhaps corporate employment. It is quite another thing to actually believe that you are automatically smarter or learned by virtue of it. Understanding this is the...
Having difficult conversations

Having difficult conversations

Life is full of difficult conversations. We encounter so many of these that it is something worth improving on. In fact, this blog post was inspired by someone who asked what the “best way” to get better at having difficult conversations is. I am not sure that there...