Projecting yourself

Projecting yourself

People are always projecting themselves on to others. This is almost axiomatic. The only question is around how much one does it. How aware are you of when you might be projecting yourself on to others? Projection is fundamental to how the human animal lives and we...
Help to think

Help to think

I often share vignettes from coaching sessions where something not obvious emerged. But, today I’d like to talk about the value of helping someone to simply think through a problem, even one that appears straightforward. To really listen and to pose questions that...
Self-actualisation is not self-improvement

Self-actualisation is not self-improvement

When people talk about self-actualisation they inevitably invoke Maslow with visually appealing colourful pyramids. They present self-actualisation as if it is somehow ‘self-improvement’. The reality is that this is a mischaracterisation. Self-actualisation is not...
Are you coachable?

Are you coachable?

The question of coachability is fundamental to the coaching relationship. It is so fundamental that without coachability, coaching simply cannot take place.   What is coachability?  Coachability is the ability to engage in an introspective process of...
Coaching in the work place

Coaching in the work place

Some people have the idea that coaching in the work place is a maintenance activity, like oiling machines that aren’t working quite well. The more generous of these people say it is like maintenance capex (capital expenditure). Such maintenance has a long-term...
Personal accountability

Personal accountability

Sometimes, people get in touch seeking coaching to keep them accountable for career and life goals. But, what does it really mean to be “held accountable” for keeping track of your own life? The real question is — WHY you would need someone else to keep you...