Bringing clarity to discussions

Bringing clarity to discussions

Few people actually have meaningful discussions where both really understand each other. Often, we talk across purposes, even about entirely different things, despite using similar words. Similar words can create the illusion that we are talking about the same thing,...
Mistaking symptoms for the problem

Mistaking symptoms for the problem

“My problem is that I get so easily distracted while working.”“I feel anxious about meeting my friends” “The trouble is I always feel like there is something missing in my life.” When diagnosing difficulties in life, you can easily fall into the trap of mistaking...
Coaching has to be fun

Coaching has to be fun

The unceasingly insightful, Rory Sutherland, made a gem of a point about creativity and humour on a recent podcast. And, it got me thinking about how coaching has to be fun, for it to really be effective.”The job of scientists is to take what is already known...
Creativity in coaching

Creativity in coaching

I just finished comedian and screenwriter John Cleese’s gem of a book, “Creativity”. Amongst the many valuable nuggets in there, one that really struck me was the value of playful exploration. Not shutting down ideas too quickly because the critical, analytical voice...
Simple does not mean easy

Simple does not mean easy

Simple does not mean easy to do. Many powerful life choices are simple — their value readily understandable. Yet, they can feel so hard to implement. Consider, for example, ‘not caring about what others think’, ‘leaving unfulfilling work/relationships’, or ‘letting-go...
Holding the space

Holding the space

People often ask what ‘holding the space’ and really ‘listening’ in coaching and other therapeutic practices looks like. We may use phrases such as ‘acceptance without judgement’ to point to our commitment to receiving the person unconditionally. To receiving them...