Unexpected heat

Unexpected heat

If things are unexpectedly heating-up in a discussion, make sure that the other person has definitely understood precisely what you had intended to say. Especially, if what you are saying is quite mundane. It could be that you are just being misunderstood. Filters and...
Welcoming insults

Welcoming insults

Sometimes people think they are insulting you, but in your mind it’s actually a compliment. Because the thing they accuse you of, is exactly what you are going for. However, this requires you to be very clear in your mind on if something is an insult or...
Homo Narcissus, Economicus and Idiotus

Homo Narcissus, Economicus and Idiotus

We may have adopted the lofty quality of sapience (being wise) as our defining characteristic. It is far from clear however if we deserve it. For, sapience must be exercised. It is one possibility amongst many and we seem to have forgotten our capacity for it. It is...
Apologist for bad management?

Apologist for bad management?

Want to lead better? Don’t be an apologist for bad management and bureaucracy. These problems are inherent to big corporate structures. And, the more you deny them, the worse things get. Trickle down The large size of big-corporates inevitably produces clumsy...
Whatever happened to nuance?

Whatever happened to nuance?

Nuance seems to have all but fallen out of the public discourse today. Black and white thinking and polarised views seem to attack each other ignoring the fact that things rarely are that simple. Oversimplification is a killer I find it incredible that many seem...
Quality of your attention is everything

Quality of your attention is everything

The quality of your attention is everything when it comes to engaging with others. This is true whether you are having intense business dealings or chatting with a friend. Attending Attention is about how you attend and be present to the person and what they are...