Don’t focus on the “thing”

Don’t focus on the “thing”

Coaching is full of “what should I do?” decision problems. Perhaps choosing between jobs, whether to end a personal or professional relationship, or to embrace a fundamentally new life path. Whatever the specific thing in question, we tend to focus too much on “it” —...
Running faster just to stand still

Running faster just to stand still

Many governments in the so called ‘developed’ world have dragged their feet in responding to Coronavirus. And, the reasons have always been economic. In effect, prioritising ‘economy/markets’ above human life. Aside from the ethical bankruptcy of this position, it...
Toxic relationships must go

Toxic relationships must go

Say NO to toxic relationships like your life depends on it. Because it does.‬ It really does. Humans are social animals and we draw strength from human relationships. At the same time, these relationships, personal and professional, also have the power to destroy us....
The unhappy high achiever

The unhappy high achiever

The case of the unhappy high achiever is much more common than you might think. Where  individuals who have gained much career success of the conventional type — so called “high achievers” — feel deeply unfulfilled despite all their external achievements....
Angry Buddha?

Angry Buddha?

Can one be assertive with compassion? I have been reflecting a lot these days about the nature of compassion and how it is really not about being ‘nice’. It struck me just how much the two are conflated in popular culture. There are times when tough messages have to...