Your deepest interests will be a mystery

Your deepest interests will be a mystery

The world is full of arresting possibilities, but few may really speak to you. In the final analysis, the source of your deepest interests will be a mystery. Yet, it is YOUR mystery, and you must choose to own it. If you don’t, someone else will choose for you. ...
The Gateless Gate

The Gateless Gate

I was having a coffee locally next to an outdoor artwork of a free-standing door. A door, which if it was closed, might make you believe that your path was blocked. It made me think of how so often, we stand in our own way — how we create a gateless gate.  Wumen...
Be a Giver and only work with Givers

Be a Giver and only work with Givers

Be a Giver and only work with Givers. That is the secret recipe where everyone wins. The recipe for creating positive feedback loops of mutual gain and growth. The hardest part though is simply staying away from the Takers.  Givers  To be a giver and only work with...
Trickster behind the Drama Triangle

Trickster behind the Drama Triangle

When people discuss Karpman’s Drama Triangle, they often forget the role of the Trickster, or Mothaf****r, as I like to call him. Many are familiar with the possibility of personal and professional relationships involving the mutually reinforcing roles of...
‘What to do with my life?’ is the wrong question

‘What to do with my life?’ is the wrong question

The question is not ‘what to do with my life’, but how to be in my life? How to be comfortable with who you are. How to be at peace with the world, how to be inspired by something. If you discover how to be, what to do will automatically take care of itself.  ...
On variety and choice

On variety and choice

When I find something that I like, I tend to stick to it. In addition to this being very good for my relationship, I’ve come to experience it as a great blessing in general. Paradox of choice? Variety may be the spice of life, but in trying too hard to have too...