Quality of your attention is everything

Quality of your attention is everything

The quality of your attention is everything when it comes to engaging with others. This is true whether you are having intense business dealings or chatting with a friend. Attending Attention is about how you attend and be present to the person and what they are...
So smart yet so stupid

So smart yet so stupid

Humans do amazing things, but we can also be supremely stupid. Other animals do less-amazing things perhaps, but they are also less stupid. We seem to be so smart yet so stupid. Who we are This is both the human gift and the human curse, the interconnected duality of...
Angry Buddha?

Angry Buddha?

Can one be assertive with compassion? I have been reflecting a lot these days about the nature of compassion and how it is really not about being ‘nice’. It struck me just how much the two are conflated in popular culture. There are times when tough messages have to...
Thoughts on a virus

Thoughts on a virus

As coronavirus makes its way into London where I live, I am struck by a number of things about how we as a society are responding, both at the individual level and at the level of government. What strikes me most is what I feel to be both a lack of rigour and a lack...
Opinionated? Or, just strong opinions?

Opinionated? Or, just strong opinions?

Having strong opinions is not the same as being opinionated, though it may sometimes seem that way to the casual observer. What is more important is not how things look however, but what they actually are! The difference Being opinionated is about dogmatically and...
Indecisive or just confused?

Indecisive or just confused?

What can sometimes seem like indecisiveness might actually be confusion in disguise. It is crucial to distinguish between the two and to really ask yourself: Am I indecisive or just confused? The difference Indecisiveness is about difficulty in “deciding”...