Say NO to toxic relationships like your life depends on it. Because it does. It really does. Humans are social animals and we draw strength from human relationships. At the same time, these relationships, personal and professional, also have the power to destroy us. Particularly, when you expect them to be supportive, but they only bring negativity into your life.
Remove the negativity
Principle: It is better to have no relationship than a toxic one.
1) Better to have no friends than bad friends
2) Better to be single than in a draining and incompatible romantic relationship
3) Better to accept lower pay within a healthy working environment, than more money working for an a***h***
4) Better to not see relatives than be subjected to competitive comparisons to some nephew that just got a mortgage or some such absurdity (as if going into lifelong debt is something to be proud of)
5) Better to limit interactions even with parents, if they are insensitively imposing their expectations on you
Things can become very confusing, especially when friends and family are involved. Because we feel they should have our best interests at heart. So, it can be very difficult to even consider that your nearest and dearest might actually be hurting you.
Remember that most people are just muddling through life. Just because they happen to be your parent, friend or boss, that doesn’t make them particularly wiser. They may be, but this is not automatic. So, don’t assume it.
How many people have really stopped to think about their lives and their actions? Many are simply confused and don’t even know it. Worst still, many do not have the humility to even be open to it.
If you are unsure about a relationship, err on the side of caution. Take it slow and with great care. If you feel disempowered and put down, don’t tolerate it. It is better to sit alone and look at a tree rather than have sh*t thrust on you by another human.
Use your intuition
So, be careful whom you hang around with and trust your intuition. Human evolution has gifted you with a strong sense for these things. Use it. It is modernity that confuses us into accepting the unacceptable.
Remember, that it is okay to say NO to toxic relationships. Actually, you MUST say no to toxic relationships. You don’t deserve them — no one does.
Harsha is a 1:1 coach and independent thinker based in London. He empowers people to find more clarity, confidence and focus in their lives — to cut through the noise, in a world so full of it. Harsha’s new book, Machine Ego: Tragedy of the Modern Mind, is now available in paperback and Kindle through Amazon.