Acceptance is one of those things that is often grossly misunderstood in popular culture. Many confuse acceptance with inaction or defeatism, with rolling over and playing nice. The truth is that it is in fact the opposite. In the deepest and fullest sense of the word, acceptance is not about inaction or passivity at all!

Embracing reality

Acceptance is rather about recognising and embracing reality just as it is, in all its pain and glory, ugliness and beauty. It is non-acceptance that is actually passive, as it pushes us to believe that we have no agency. To believe that we have no choice in how we react at any given moment. 

So, acceptance is then a very active state. A state of fully embracing the reality of situations with clear, unwavering attention. A state of clarity from which effective action can flow.

A place of healing

No matter how painful the situation, deep acceptance can become a place of self-healing and self-compassion from which new and unseen possibilities for living might emerge. Because embracing reality requires us to fully see it and acknowledge it. To challenge the false conditioned narratives that define who we think we are and should be. To let go of that which does not serve us.

Truly and deeply accepting something or someone is actually a place of immense mental liberation. A place beyond denial and tension from which change becomes possible. A place of real personal power that also allows you to more fully accept who YOU are

Acceptance is not about inaction, it is about deeply seeing what is.


Harsha PereraHarsha is a 1:1 coach and independent thinker based in London. He empowers people to find more clarity, confidence and focus in their lives — to cut through the noise, in a world so full of it. Harsha’s new book, Machine Ego: Tragedy of the Modern Mind, is now available in paperback and Kindle through Amazon.