It’s never laziness

It’s never laziness

Laziness is never really laziness. It is usually a veneer for (i) not caring enough  (ii) feeling confronted by a thing. It is the surface result of a deeper force. Laziness is really dispassion or fear.  Dispassion  Coachees sometimes tell me that they are not...
“Busy” is the wrong question

“Busy” is the wrong question

It’s not about being busy or not busy — it’s about being busy on your own terms. I used to think I was busy during my early private equity days, with late nights and what not. But, the reality is that I am as busy, if not busier, doing my own thing now. It’s just that...
The unattended

The unattended

“My experience is what I agree to attend to”, observed the American philosopher and psychologist, William James in 1890. But what James —who was exploring the nature of conscious awareness — noted, is not quite right. What we choose to pay attention to and consume...
Yet another challenge?

Yet another challenge?

I’ve always been puzzled by the idea of “seeking new challenges.” Seeking out something undefined except for its challengingness, its level of difficulty and hardship. And, this can become almost pathological for some as they look for yet another new challenge — a new...
Comfortable with yourself

Comfortable with yourself

A fundamental indicator of how comfortable you are in your own skin is the ability to just be with yourself — to sit with your thoughts and your feelings. To not have to rely on some activity, distraction or dopamine hit to feel at ease. To simply be comfortable with...