Personal mastery is not about control

Personal mastery is not about control

There is an erroneous view that personal mastery is about controlling feelings and emotions. But, seeking to control only makes you more out-of-control. Mastery lies in being willing to experience ALL that you feel. By being open to all emotions, you avoid becoming a...
Jumping is always better than being pushed

Jumping is always better than being pushed

Being pushed may feel easier than jumping, for example being made redundant vs quitting, or when ending an unfulfilling relationship. Outside events may certainly catalyse beneficial action that you have been avoiding. But, is it wise to rely on them? While being...
Jealousy and friendship

Jealousy and friendship

You can be annoyed at your friend. You can be angry at your friend. Hell, you can even hate your friend (for a brief moment or two). But, you can never be jealous of your friend. For, jealousy at root implies that you do not want the best for them, destroying the very...
Quality of your free time

Quality of your free time

One thing people often forget when they consider their jobs is how their roles affect their free time. I am not just talking about the amount of your free time, but also the quality of your free time. Your ability to make the most of it.  Noticing the relationship ...
Holding the space

Holding the space

People often ask what ‘holding the space’ and really ‘listening’ in coaching and other therapeutic practices looks like. We may use phrases such as ‘acceptance without judgement’ to point to our commitment to receiving the person unconditionally. To receiving them...