Many of us want to be able to read people better, to sense their intentions and motives so we are less likely to get caught out. Somewhat counterintuitively though, this is a skill that arises from really knowing yourself. Because the mind is like a hall of mirrors.
The more that you enquire into your own behaviour and deeper intentions, the more will be revealed about others. The more you notice your internal narrative and chattering ego, the more you will begin to notice how others too are gripped by their own.
What unites us is our common humanity. We find reflections of ourselves in others and reflections of others in ourselves. And, our frisky and noisy minds are at the core of this. Minds that are prone to seek security and validation from all manner of things. So, the more that you become aware of how your own desires, fears and insecurities drive your behaviour, the more you will become aware of these in others.
It’s a hall of mirrors
The reality is that we are so busy just getting things done that we don’t take the time to investigate ourselves. To investigate the thoughts behind our actions, and the deeper beliefs behind our thoughts. Our minds can be opaque and so easily hide from us.
But, one who has spent time better understanding herself may even intuit things in others that the other themselves is not aware of. So, rather than trying to read others because you want to stay one step ahead, why not spend time learning to read yourself better.
The inner clarity you find within yourself will naturally reflect itself outwards. Remember that it is like a hall of mirrors.
Harsha is a 1:1 coach and independent thinker based in London. He empowers people to find more clarity, confidence and focus in their lives — to cut through the noise, in a world so full of it. Harsha’s new book, Machine Ego: Tragedy of the Modern Mind, is now available in paperback and Kindle through Amazon.