A large part of life is about finding the right people for you. The people that you would like to work with and hang out with. 

Who are the right people? 

The good news is that there is nothing intrinsically ‘right’ (or wrong) about the right people because you decide. You decide based on your inclinations and preferences. And, the right people for you, might be the wrong people for someone else. That’s the beauty of life. There is something for everyone. 

So, becoming aware of what kind of people you want to work with and spend time with, makes life a whole lot easier. For, as the Roman Stoic, Seneca, aptly points out: ” When two people are going in opposite directions there’s soon a big distance between them”. And, YOU can actively choose to have such people in your life more. People who, for now at least, are ‘going in the same direction’. But, in order to choose, you must first become aware of who they are. This is the first step to finding the right people for you.

I, for example, am very strict about whom I collaborate with. I would rather have a coffee and do some writing on my own, rather than work with people I am not aligned with. 

Every experience can teach you 

Of course, this may be tricker is some situations than others. For example, if you’ve just joined a large corporation, you may have to work with colleagues who are not the right people for you. But, you see, even this can be a great learning IF you become open to it. You can ask why they are not the right people for you, and who the right people might be? So, even such an experience can allow you to understand your interests, needs and motivations more deeply.  

Finding the right people takes courage 

By experiencing what is not right for you, you become clearer about what is right for you. So, don’t be too annoyed if you meet the wrong people along the way. Ultimately, they will help you in finding the right kind of people for you. 

What it takes though is the courage to really own who you are and what you like. 

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Harsha is a 1:1 coach and independent thinker based in London. He empowers people to find more clarity, confidence and focus in their lives — to cut through the noise, in a world so full of it. Harsha’s new book, Machine Ego: Tragedy of the Modern Mind, is now available in paperback and Kindle through Amazon.