Identity crisis

Identity crisis

We often set goals for ourselves and get hung-up on not reaching them. But, how often do you consider changing your goals because they are no longer fit for purpose? Because things have moved on. Because you have moved on. Sometimes, change can feel like an identity...
Judging or discerning?

Judging or discerning?

Judgements tend to be associated with something negative in common speech today. “You are so judgemental”. “Are you judging me?”. “I feel judged”. What we have to be careful about though, is conflating hurtful and opinionated assertions (judging?) with what we might...
Let it brew

Let it brew

I was boiling a pot of ginger tea for my cold today and noticed how in my impatience I nearly turned the heat up to max. Some things, just can’t be rushed though. Where rushing has no value or even worse, negative value. This is true whether you are brewing tea,...
Naming is knowing

Naming is knowing

We make sense of the world by giving things labels and names. Be it people, objects, experiences or ideas. That’s what allows us to distinguish this from that, in from out, us from them. What’s in a name or label you might ask? Well, sort of everything. Because, in a...
The grey area

The grey area

The grey area is often the place where the most interesting things happen. That space between black and white where possibilities open up. But, it is also where we can feel most uncomfortable. Certainty The certainty of knowing is something we seem to crave as 21st...
Another year of deferred happiness?

Another year of deferred happiness?

“If only I could get that promotion next year, I’d be happier,” she says.  “If I could just lose a couple of kilos, I know I’ll feel a lot more confident,” he says “Perhaps, if I become the top performer at work next year, I will be a real success”, they...