Judging or discerning?

Judging or discerning?

Judgements tend to be associated with something negative in common speech today. “You are so judgemental”. “Are you judging me?”. “I feel judged”. What we have to be careful about though, is conflating hurtful and opinionated assertions (judging?) with what we might...
Let it brew

Let it brew

I was boiling a pot of ginger tea for my cold today and noticed how in my impatience I nearly turned the heat up to max. Some things, just can’t be rushed though. Where rushing has no value or even worse, negative value. This is true whether you are brewing tea,...
Naming is knowing

Naming is knowing

We make sense of the world by giving things labels and names. Be it people, objects, experiences or ideas. That’s what allows us to distinguish this from that, in from out, us from them. What’s in a name or label you might ask? Well, sort of everything. Because, in a...
The grey area

The grey area

The grey area is often the place where the most interesting things happen. That space between black and white where possibilities open up. But, it is also where we can feel most uncomfortable. Certainty The certainty of knowing is something we seem to crave as 21st...
Another year of deferred happiness?

Another year of deferred happiness?

“If only I could get that promotion next year, I’d be happier,” she says.  “If I could just lose a couple of kilos, I know I’ll feel a lot more confident,” he says “Perhaps, if I become the top performer at work next year, I will be a real success”, they...
Office Christmas tree

Office Christmas tree

A Christmas tree in the lobby of an office building caught my eye yesterday. It was big, fully decorated and seemingly brand new. Yet, it felt sterile, put together quickly and uncaringly. Two sides to the coin This office Christmas tree made me think of how we might...