Having difficult conversations

Having difficult conversations

Life is full of difficult conversations. We encounter so many of these that it is something worth improving on. In fact, this blog post was inspired by someone who asked what the “best way” to get better at having difficult conversations is. I am not sure that there...
The enemy of truth

The enemy of truth

Wanting to be right is the enemy of truth. It can distort your judgement and blind you. Because you are more interested in ‘winning’, rather than in getting to the bottom of things. Deeper commitment Your enquiry has to go deeper then. Beyond ego insecurities around...
Quality of your attention is everything

Quality of your attention is everything

The quality of your attention is everything when it comes to engaging with others. This is true whether you are having intense business dealings or chatting with a friend. Attending Attention is about how you attend and be present to the person and what they are...
Like a hall of mirrors

Like a hall of mirrors

Many of us want to be able to read people better, to sense their intentions and motives so we are less likely to get caught out. Somewhat counterintuitively though, this is a skill that arises from really knowing yourself. ‬Because the mind is like a hall of mirrors....
So smart yet so stupid

So smart yet so stupid

Humans do amazing things, but we can also be supremely stupid. Other animals do less-amazing things perhaps, but they are also less stupid. We seem to be so smart yet so stupid. Who we are This is both the human gift and the human curse, the interconnected duality of...