More clarity, more impact
1:1 Session, December 2018
Getting the most out of professional interactions, be it meetings or calls, is fundamentally about clarity. Clarity not only about the agenda, but the various (hidden) agendas behind the agenda. About really asking, “What is the purpose of this?” and “Who is it for”?.
Meetings can often feel like dangerous places, where multiple egos are competing to assert themselves. Such behaviour can easily engender insecurity in you and in others. But, the more that you seek clarity and the more that this search for clarity is backed-up by competence, the less you will have to worry about insecurities and egos. And, the more impact you will have.
In a shark tank
1:1 Session, November 2018
Being in a shark tank does not necessarily mean that you have to become a shark. It is more about a deep awareness of your business environment and seeing reality for what it is. In all its ugliness and beauty. With such an awareness, things are less likely to catch you off guard.
You can then make a conscious decision about if you too want to be a shark, the skilled diver that navigates through it all, or out of the tank altogether! The choice is yours. You must decide how you want to play the game. It all starts with a true understanding of what-is. Of self and other.
Different sides of you
1:1 Session, November 2018
There are different sides to you that constantly jostle for air time. Different facets of your character that make-up the whole you. Understanding what parts tend to dominate, in which situations and why, can be fundamental.
What are the implications of having a particularly dominant facet? What does that mean for you as a person and how you live? Could it be pointing to an unhealthy imbalance?
1:1 Session, November 2018
If true success is about an inner state of contentment, engagement and peace, what is it that stops you from allowing it? What is it that keeps you stuck in a different place?
Seeing the inner voices that distract you with their definition of “success” is crucial. Whom do these voices really belong to? Unconsciously, who might you be trying to please? Success is not something “out there” to be defined by others. It is something within.
Seeing what keeps you stuck
1:1 Session, October 2018
Sometimes, what might on the surface seem like a tactical problem, could have deeper roots in how secure you feel about yourself, regardless of what tactical path you take. Seeing what keeps you stuck in a place of insecurity is often the first step.
The next is letting-go of what holds you back and allowing more trust in yourself to emerge. This is often a far more fertile place from which tactical decisions can be made.
1:1 Session, September 2018
When conflicts arise, it is easy to be passively sucked into adversarial exchanges. Seeing and acknowledging the pressures that others are under can help you approach the situation with more calm and compassion. Remember that compassion can be very rigorous.
It is not about ignoring bad behaviour or letting people walk all over you. It is rather about setting appropriate boundaries and taking considered action from a place of deep understanding of both self and other. And, yes, that takes courage. It is far easier to unconsciously take on the role of aggressor or victim. But, it is also far less effective in actually improving the situation.
1:1 Session, July 2018
Sometimes, you can fall into the trap of giving more value to work that is viewed as higher status by the mainstream, even when it is at odds with your own interests and passions. Such is the nature of social conditioning and status seeking.
Being a ski instructor or CFO of an airline are both equally valid. The question is, what really inspires you? What deeply resonates with you?
Two sides of the same coin
1:1 Session, June 2018
When doing anything, whether it is public speaking, cooking or technical diagnostics, be aware of when you lose focus in the moment. Know both the specifics of the activity that require your focus AND what distracts you from maintaining such focus. They are two sides of the same coin.
Say “yes” to the former and “no” to the latter. What we are talking about then is a mindful state of clear focus in the moment.
Fear of failure
1:1 Session, April 2018
At times, the very act of noticing and fully acknowledging fear of failure and its roots can liberate you from it. Sometimes though, you have to actively focus your mind away from fear.
Focus on the resources and strengths that might allow you to cut through it. Focus on immersing in “the doing” and finding a mental place where there is then no room for fear.
1:1 Session, February 2018
Sometimes, in order to get to the heart of a problem, you have to really open-up things. Really take your time to explore different interconnected areas.
The reasons for stuckness can at times be staring you in the face, and you just didn’t see it. But, sometimes the real nub of the issue might be concealed. And, often it is through careful and deliberate exploration that you begin to uncover what is going on. It is about taking the time to look deeper.
1:1 Session, October 2017
Even long-standing and tightly knit teams can stumble. Paying attention to how well you are working together and communicating is as important as focusing on the job.
Nothing fuels resentment more than things unsaid and toes accidentally stepped on. Taking time out to nurture relationships could be one of the most important things you do for your team.
Find your calling
1:1 Session, September 2017
When trying to find and connect with your calling, look beyond the surface manifestation of the possibilities you consider. What are the underlying characteristics that attract you to a particular thing? What are the deeper dynamics that you are curious about?
Example: It is one thing to like the idea of being a dancer, it is quite another to love body movement and yearn to tell stories and express yourself through it.
1:1 Session, July 2017
Closure does not always need to come through dialogue with the person with whom you have had a conflict or difficult experience.
It is really about an inner movement within you that acknowledges what was. It is really about finding peace within yourself with what transpired.
In their shoes
1:1 Session, July 2017
Standing in the shoes of your direct reports and experiencing what life might be like for them allows you to see more clearly the challenges they face.
The more that you become aware of the ‘hidden’ dynamics and pressures in your team, the more you can empower them and yourself.
Team coaching session, June 2017
Starting with the future and first embodying having successfully reached your objectives can unlock the elusive “how”.
The experiential exercise of team members looking back at “today” from the future and together tracing back their steps, can help uncover both the critical path and ways in which the team could work more closely together.
A walk in the park
1:1 Session, May 2017
When your thinking and ideas are blocked, getting out of the chair and moving can allow you to access your brain in different ways.
What better place to do that than in the park on a sunny day. Changing your environment and movement can help unlock new and creative ideas.
Voices from the past
1:1 Skype session, April 2017
Lack of confidence in one’s self can sometimes be the result of limiting beliefs that have originated in the past, and which now keep you stuck.
The stories that you tell yourself about what you can and cannot do, should and shouldn’t do, may be a recurring voice from the distant past. A voice that belongs to someone close to you whom you trust and value.
Team coaching session, April 2017
Transporting yourself into the future and brainstorming in that place, together as a team, can generate new thinking.
This can be an effective way of surfacing, clarifying and agreeing priorities.